I went to a class today on Parent-Teen relationship.
It’s a whole day class on how to deal with teenagers.
Why did I go?
Because I struggle at times dealing with Miss 12.
Anna Freud once said that
“there’s only 1 stage of life more difficult than being a teenager, being a parent of one.”
That is so true!
I rasa sebab we are both quite similar in nature, tu yang selalu tak ngam.
The Other Half kata sebab we all berdua keras kepala asik nak menang aje, tu yang asik gaduh aje, hehehehe.
I said to The Other Half yang I know I am right so tu yang I sepatutnya menang aje, hahaha….
Yang I heran nya, The Other Half is an only child, pastu tak ramai sedara mara and takde anak2 sedara but he instinctively knows what to say to The Little Misses without it sounding like he’s scolding them.
Yang I pulak, ramai adik beradik, ramai sedara mara but memang selalu say things that sounds as though I’m scolding them.
Itu sebabnya Miss 12 finds it more comfortable confiding in her Dad than me because he knows how to listen and what to say unlike me yang tak pandai mendengar.
Most of the time, we get on well but every day there’s always something that the girls do that will annoy me and jarang lah tak dengar suara I membebel either pagi or petang or malam.
I know I have to change my behaviour first but itu yang susah nak buat and praktik kan .
To be more patient, be more understanding, be a good listener for a start….
Cakap nak change tu senang lah kan, sape2 boleh cakap……
At least tadi at the class, I know I’m not the only Mum who’s having trouble and not the only Mum who thinks I’m such a bad Mum sometimes.
And I also know that Miss 12 is not acting that way because she wants to make life miserable for me. A lot of other 12 year olds behave that way too, hehehehe.
If only life has manuals and everyone follows the manuals exactly, wouldn’t it be nice…
But life will be quite boring, probably…..
I love them both very much but they certainly cause a lot of grey hairs to appear on my head overnight! hahahahaha….
Susah nak jaga anak2 ni kan….